First Time Visiting a Dominatrix? What to Expect
If you’ve found yourself here it is because something in you is craving a bit of domination. Maybe you’ve always been a little curious or maybe this is something you know you’ve always wanted and have finally decided to dive in. Maybe you have a very specific fetish or sexual interest that you find difficult to indulge in your day to day life. Or maybe you feel it’s finally time to treat yourself to a true luxury experience and give up your tight grasp on control for a few hours. But regardless of why you are here, there are some important things to know before taking that intoxicating plunge. Here are some common questions you might be wondering before your first mistress session.
I’m extremely nervous, is that okay?
I don’t think I’ve ever come across a first timer who wasn’t shaking in their shorts on our first BDSM session meeting. Even the veteran clients can be very nervous before their session with me! It is absolutely normal to be nervous, sometimes to the extreme. Don’t fret though, I actually love it. Seeing the way my presence affects my client is one of my favorite things. It just makes me feel that much hotter and more powerful.
How does the booking process work?
Always begin by filling out my first time client form here. Once I receive your submission I will reply typically within 24 hours. I’ll then ask you to complete the safety screening- you’ll be required to send me a selfie holding your ID with your first and last name visible (other info can be blacked out), or by sending me 2+ prior provider references (other dominatrixes or escorts). Once I accept your screening you are required to send a 25% deposit to book the session. After the appointment has been made, I will schedule a quick 5-10 minute phone call with you to discuss the session in detail and go over any questions you may have.
How do I prepare for the session?
I always ask my clients to be sober and freshly showered with no cologne. I am very sensitive to strong fragrances. You must always arrive precisely on time, not early or late. If you are late, the clock still begins at the agreed upon time whether you are there on time or not. If you have any specific outfit requests or other specialty fetishes, there may be extra instructions I will give you ahead of time. Please don’t arrive to the session drunk or high. It is not safe for either of us.
What happens when I arrive?
I will greet you at the door and we will have a quick consent chat, reviewing everything we talked about on the phone and going over safe words and just reconfirming the activities to take place that day. I will ask you to set down your things and head to the bathroom to wash your hands. Once you come out, the session will begin.
I’m afraid it will be too painful!
This is one major misconception about professional dominatrix sessions. Not all sessions involve pain! It is 100% tailored to you and your limits and interests. Many of my clients don’t want any pain at all. If you are interested in impact play or any pain play, it is always done safely and consensually. Typically I am a bit softer on the first meeting until we work up the trust and understanding together.
What is aftercare?
Aftercare is “the process of providing emotional, psychological, or physical support to participants following BDSM activities.” (Wikipedia). This can be different from person to person. I personally enjoy giving soft strokes to your shoulders and arms and casual conversation about what we just experienced together. Some people prefer no aftercare which is totally fine too. This is included as part of the session.
